coping coaching and the power to change

Shakespeare said, “We know what we are, but not what we may be.”

Does this describe you? Do you concentrate on your imperfections more than your victories, seldom stopping to think of who you are becoming? Do you repeatedly lean on thoughts and habits (even or especially those that are negative or destructive) in order to “cope”? 

How well is that working for you?

I’m going to predict that you know ruminating in all those negative thoughts aren’t helping you on a practical level. And that while coping gives you some sort of benefit, an immediate small win, it’s not what you really want.

So, why don’t you change your thoughts from negative to positive like you change masks when the latest PPE shipment arrives?

Because real, measurable, and sustainable, change is hard.

The challenge – especially for driven, high achieving physicians – is that you have been conditioned by many false concepts, values, and beliefs that prevent you from realizing how truly capable and unique you are.

That’s the good news – there is an identifiable root cause. 

Now for the even better news, by virtue of your role as co-creator of your life and career, you have the power to change any of its aspects. Every great physician leader that I know has come to the same conclusion: you cannot look to someone outside yourself to solve your problems – that is coping. The answers lie with you, but to get to the essence of them, they must first be understood and internalized.

Leading with wisdom and confidence, health, fulfillment, upward mobility, work/life balance, and peace of mind are natural states of being once you break the bonds of limited, repetitive thinking.

This is where expert coaching can have a profound and lasting impact.

This is what I learned from partnering with a coach who helped me discover leadership’s courageous skills.

This is what I share with you in a customized, immersive, planning, goal setting coaching program designed to put insights about your strengths into action.

Coaching, and more specifically, leadership coaching for physicians can help you perceive your true worth as a person and as a leader and minimize or cancel your perceived need to cope. Alone, you cannot come close to achieving your potential degree of skilled self-confidence and trustable executive presence. Only to the degree that you can truly acknowledge your unique importance and employ your leadership assets will you be able to free yourself from self-imposed limitations.

Action from empathy
You must “drive out excessive waste” – learn the reflexive technique of reducing the variation of your imagined inadequacies. Without the invaluable skills of empathy and emotional ascension, you will struggle to attain the upward momentum, recognition and rewards of autonomy, confidence, and certainty. To be compassionate and emotionally available to everyone in your personal and professional sphere, you must first begin by understanding and loving yourself – that’s the bottom line. You have been told to “Love thy neighbor as thyself”. Still, until you have a full, informed, mature appreciation of who you are and your potential to guide and lead, your career and relationships will be unnecessarily stressful and complicated.

These realizations can change everything for you, as they did and still do for me.

Physician Coaching can provide the framework of leadership success by delivering the insights, techniques, strategies, and motivational tools to reshape mental and emotional “obstacles” and enable focused and energized growth.

My Accelerated Ascension (AA) Coaching Program gives you the self-awareness to lead with compassion and empathy while inspiring those around you to follow your example.

Do you know what heights you’ll reach when you accelerate mastery by creating space to reflect and learn?

AA is a safe space to practice and figure it out. Reserve your spot and let’s do this together!


Teresa Dean Malcolm, MD, FACOG, MBA, CPE, CPXP, ACC, is zealous in her belief that an exceptional experience in clinical care, the human(e) experience, is achievable through meaningful and authentic relationships with others. She has served in executive positions, integrating people with process and purpose, and successfully aligning the ideas of the team with a compelling vision. She is a Certified Physician Development and Executive Coach. Her coaching philosophy, The Malcolm Method, is rooted in positive psychology, social and emotional intelligence, and strengths based leadership. Through thought-provoking conversations, she strives to deepen the awareness of her physician clients and further their actions, thereby helping them to thrive as they lead. Dr. Malcolm (known to her friends and family as Terri) is a loving wife to her husband, Nate. Together they have three charming boys, Nathaniel, and twins, Roman and Colton.

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